Social Conformity, " change in belief or behavior in order to fit in with a group," can be a very destructive force as can be seen in the so-called "black hat" community, forcing even destructive behavior under the guise of religion.
However in Modern Orthodoxy there is little or no social conformity to be religious. To be a professional, yes, to go to a good school, yes, to make large amounts of money, probably, to be a religious Jew, to try and keep most of halacha? I don't see it.
Nobody is interested in saying, "kids going off has to be fixed now." Mumbling about the great work of JLIC or YU does not stop the problem.
There is no embarrassment over sponsoring kiddish for a graduation of a child who no longer keeps kosher and is living with a non-Jew.
I don't see emergency appeals for building Orthodox dormitories on college campuses, or for that matter JLIC. Some local shuls raised a couple thousand for JLIC. Wow! People will drop $50,000 a year for their kids future career, but a couple of bucks for having frum grandchildren?
The pressure to go on exotic vacations. Pesach hotels. Schools with all the accouterments of public schools. Fancy shul buildings. but what about our religion?
